Dear Lie,

I meant to actually write this along with the shorts that I meant to post, but am still not able to, because I can't seem to upload photos.

I could of course hold off until then, but as you might have noticed I'm not very good with the holding off and the waiting. I would fail that marshmallow test big time.

This morning, I saw "He's just not that into you". And yeah, go ahead, think of me what you will, be it clueless, lost, or shallow, I don't mind. I love this movie. It really got to me.

I was actually able to relate to all the characters. The wise yet somehow jaded guy. The one who cheated. The one who got cheated on. The other woman. The one who would have been perfect just not for that particular person. The girl who can't seem to find a guy offline or online. And the clueless gal who just keeps getting it wrong.

The lies that women say to each other is just really... Shocking.

I know because I've been told these lies and I've said these lies to a lot of women. Sometimes, blatantly knowing that they were lies and sometimes not. But ultimately, they were lies.

A guy doesn't call and to console you say a variety of bs to console your wounded friend's ego. Oftentimes, you say it coupled with the words "Trust me".

Whether they meant it or not, it's a lie.

A guy sends mixed signals and a friend interprets them as "Oh he probably loves you, but he just can't bring himself to it yet, because of the complicated situation.", and seeing as your friend is either in a relationship or is probably even married, you believe them.

Whether they mean it or not, it's a lie.

A guy refuses to marry you even after years of being together... Your friends console you by saying, "Oh you know what? He loves you, babe. You're his world. He's just not ready yet. You know how men are... They're babies."

I meant this and I'm sure whoever else says this means it, too... But I realize it's a lie.

A guy cheats on you and your friends console you saying, "Oh you know what? That was just a moment of weakness. All men have it. Given the chance, given the opportunity, all men do it. If you're gonna leave him just for that, then forget a relationship with all other men."

I actually believe this, but to some extent, it's still a lie.

As the movie did imply, the thing is, we all think we're the exception, but really we're the rule. If a guy doesn't call you, he's not interested. If he's not willing to marry you, he's just not that into you. If he sends mixed signals, well he's probably just as confused as you are, you can wait and get all mixed up yourself, but the wise thing is to just walk away. If he cheats on you, he is a douchebag, and he's just not that into you. Oh and if a guy can lie to you about a tiny little thing, he will lie to you about the big things.

I love how the movie just got the dating games right down to T. I mean, we can just stop with all the vagueness, but there's no fun in that. Although, when it comes to letting go and moving on that should be as clear as day.

But sometimes we don't know where to see clearly and where to blur out those lines.

I love how it ended... How you'll see the exceptions and you'll see the rules... And how sometimes, your happy ending is putting the broken pieces of yourself back together and moving on. And that though you may have been the rule this time or you'll be the rule for the next and the next and the next, one day you just might be the exception.

I'm not gonna lose that hope. I will be the exception someday. One of these days, I will get my happy ending.

I'd rather be hurt a million times, because at least at those times, I realize that I can feel.


As Always,
D.

P.S.: The movie's end credits played "Friday, I'm in love" by The Cure. I think it's symbollic, don't you? So yeah, for all the women, including myself, who has been the rule forever, do not be jaded...

It's only Monday. Who knows? Come Friday, you might be in love, too. Kisses!